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Friday, December 31, 2004

Choice or Chance

When we meet the right person to love, when we're at the right place at the right time, that's chance.

When you meet someone you're attracted to, that's not a choice. That's chance.

Being caught up in a moment (and there are a lot of couples who get together because of this) is not a choice. That's also a chance.

The difference is what happens afterwards. When will you take that infatuation, that crush, that mind-blowing attraction to the next level? That's when all sanity goes back, you sit down and contemplate whether you want to make this into a concrete relationship or just a fling.

If you decide to love a person, even with his faults, that's not a chance. That's choice.

When you choose to be with a person, no matter what, that's choice.

Even if you know there are many people out there who are more attractive, smarter, and richer than your mate, and yet, you decide to love your mate just the same, that's choice.

Infatuation, crushes, and attraction come to us by chance. But true love that lasts is truly a choice. A choice that we make.

Regarding soulmates, there's a beautiful movie quote that I believe is so true about this: "Fate brings you together, but it's still up to you to make it happen."

I believe that soulmates do exist, that there is truly someone made for you. But it's still up to you to make the choice if you're going to do something about it or not.

We may meet our soulmates by chance, but loving and staying with our soulmate is still a choice we have to make.

We came to the world not for finding someone perfect to love, BUT to learn how to love an imperfect person perfectly.


How very true...on the very same lines,this is something I believe in...Destiny too is not a matter of chance...its a matter of choice.A very happy new year.:-)
# posted by Anonymous Anonymous : Saturday, January 01, 2005  

pretty elegant post.the world wud a lot more beautiful if we recognise the chance and make the right choice.a fun filled 2005 to u all.
# posted by Blogger Abhi : Saturday, January 01, 2005  

pretty elegant post.the world wud a lot more beautiful if we recognise the chance and make the right choice.a fun filled 2005 to u all.
# posted by Blogger Abhi : Saturday, January 01, 2005  

Nice blog. About the post though, if we choose to love, then doesn't that defy the concept of love? What is emotion then? While I do believe in choice, at some stage, one must admit that the best laid plans often go astray. Do I choose everything? Or are my choices destined to be made? Interesting thought.

Anyway, Happy New Year. And once again, nice blog.
# posted by Blogger Darth Midnightmare : Saturday, January 01, 2005  

hey....I had put this up on my blog a long time back :)....Angel (angelicsoul.rediffblogs.com)
# posted by Anonymous Anonymous : Sunday, January 02, 2005  

oh did ya angel?! either i dont remember or i didnt see it at all! i found this on our internal discussion board! but a pretty nice message, na?

M, u seem to be a great philosopher!
# posted by Blogger Vidhi : Monday, January 03, 2005  

Not a philosopher or anything. Just that I often wonder over just what choice is and what destiny is...and over whether the two can co-exist. Do we choose our destiny? Or are our choices destined? As for love, can one choose to love? We may know a perfect person, but may not love that person, but another. It happens so often.....
# posted by Blogger Darth Midnightmare : Tuesday, January 04, 2005  

actually M, i think, destiny plays its part only to an extent. beyond that the choice ours. destiny only decides when the rendezvous with a person must happen. after that, we may or may not love that person; there are many factors and some unknown forces at play during this stage. but once we begin to love a person, the choice is essentially ours - whether we remain true to the love, whether we respect the trust the other person invests in us or whether we are prepared to scale any length for the one we love...isn't it?
# posted by Blogger Vidhi : Tuesday, January 04, 2005  

Slight difference of opinion. You see, we meet, yes, by destiny. But what then? Do we really CHOOSE? No! You may KNOW that the other is not even single, and yet find yourself drawn inexorably towards him/her. What's that? It's so with all of life. All our choices seem to have been predecided. If you get what I mean. I once posted on this subject actually.....

BTW, I'm linking you on my Blogroll.....
# posted by Blogger Darth Midnightmare : Monday, January 10, 2005  

hmmm...i think u r right somewhere M! me all addled with this talk on choice and chance :D ! and thanks for the link!
# posted by Blogger Vidhi : Monday, January 10, 2005  

hey V, a very nice post... hey u dont have the option of e-mailing this post to someone, many other blogs have that option when u can email a particular post to someone.. saying this just because i wud have loved to email this post to my friends, it was really nice... take care...
# posted by Anonymous Anonymous : Saturday, January 29, 2005  

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