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Thursday, June 16, 2005

What Indian Men think about Indian Women!

Got this as a forward! It seems that an article was written to a well-founded magazine, by an English woman who requested a response from Indian men. Look at the response she got from an Indian man!

Letter to Editor:

Dear Editor:

I'm sorry but I would like to challenge some of your Indian male readers. I am a White female who is engaged to an Indian male, good-looking, educated and loving. I just don't understand a lot of Indian female's attitudes about our relationship. My man decided he wanted me because the pickings amongst Indian women were slim to none. As he said they were either too fat, too loud, too mean, too argumentative, too needy, too materialistic or carrying too much excess baggage. Before I became engaged, whenever I went out I was constantly approached by Indian men, willing to wine and dine me and give me the world.

If Indian women are so up in arms about us being with their men, why don't they look at themselves and make some changes. I am tired of the dirty looks I get and snide remarks when we're out in public. I would like to hear from some Indian men about why we white women are so appealing and coveted by them. Bryant Gumbel just left his wife of 26 years for one of us. Charles Barkley, Scottie Pippen, the model Tyson Beckford, Montell Williams, Quincy Jones, James Earl Jones, Harry Belafonte, Sydney Poitier, Kofi Anan, Cuba Gooding Jr., Don Cornelius, Berry Gordy, Billy Blanks, Larry Fishburne, Wesley Snipes...I could go on and on. But, right now, I'm a little angry and that is why I wrote this so hurriedly. Don't be mad with us White women because so many of your men want us. Get your acts together and learn from us and we may lead you to treat your men better. If I'm wrong, Indian men, let me know.

Disgusted White Girl, Somewhere in VA.

The Response :

Dear Editor:

I would like to respond to the letter written by A Disgusted White Girl. Let me start by saying that I am a 28-year old Indian man. I graduated from one of the most prestigious universities in Atlanta, Georgia with a Bachelor of Arts Degree in Business Management. I have a good job at a major corporation and have recently purchased a house. So, I consider myself to be among the ranks of successful Non-White men. I will not use my precious time to slander white people. I just want to set the record straight of why Indian men date white women.

Back in the day, one of the biggest reasons why Indian men dated white women was because they were considered easy. The Indian girls in my neighborhood were raised traditionally. They were very strict about when they lost their virginity and who they lost it to. Because of our impatience to wait, brothers would look for someone who would give it up easy without too much hassle. So, they turned to the white girls.

Nowadays, in my opinion, a lot of Indian males date white women because they are docile and easy to control. A lot of Indian men, because of insecurities, fears, and overall weaknesses, have become intimidated by the strength of our Indian women. We are afraid that our women will be more successful than us, make more money than us, drive nicer cars and own bigger houses. Because of this fear, many Indian men look for a more docile woman. Someone we can control. I have talked to numerous Indian men and they continuously comment on how easy it is to control and walk over their white women.

I want A Disgusted White Girl to know that not all successful Indian men date white women. Non-Whites like Ahmad Rashad, Denzel Washington, Michael Jordan, Morris Chestnut, Will Smith, Blair Underwood, Kenneth "Babyface" Edmonds, Samuel L.Jackson and Chris Rock all married strong Non-White women. And, to flip the script, there are numerous white men, in and out of the spot light, who openly or secretly desire Non-White women over white women. Ted Danson, Robert DeNiro, and David Bowie to name a few. I just don't want a disgusted white girl to be misinformed.

Stop thinking that because you are white that you are some type of goddess. Remember, when Non-White Egyptian Queens like Hatsepshut and Nitorcris were ruling Dynasties and armies of men in Egypt, you were over in the caves of Europe eating raw meat and beating each other over the head with clubs. Read your history! It was the Non-White woman that taught you how to cook and season your food. It was the Non-White woman that taught you how to raise your children. It was Non-White woman who were breastfeeding and raising your babies during slavery. It were the Non-White women that had to endure watching their fathers, husbands, and children beaten, killed, and thrown in jail.

Indian women were born with two strikes against them: being Non-White and being a woman. And, through all this, still they rise! It is because of the Indian woman's strength, elegance, power, love and beauty that I could never date anyone except my Indian Queen. It is not just the outer beauty that captivates and draws me to them. It is not the fact that they come in all shapes, sizes, colours and shades that I love them. Their inner beauty is what I find most appealing about Indian women. Their strong spirit, loving and nurturing souls, their integrity, their ability to overcome great obstacles, their willingness to stand for what they believe in, and their determination to succeed and reach their highest potential while enduring great pain and suffering is why I have fallen in love with Indian women.

I honestly believe that your anger is geared more toward jealousy and envy than snotty looks. If this were not so, then why do you continuously go to tanning salons to darken your skin? If you are so proud to be white, then why don't you just be happy with your pale skin? Why do you continue to inject your lips and hips with unnatural and dangerous substances so you can look fuller and more voluptuous? I think that your anger is really a result of you wanting to have what the Non-White woman has.

BOTTOM LINE: If I were looking for a docile woman, someone I can walk over and control, I would give you a call. But, unfortunately, I am looking for a virtuous woman. Someone who can be a good wife and mother to my children. Someone who can be my best friend and understand my struggles. I am looking for a soul mate and unfortunately, you do not and CANNOT fit the bill.

No offense taken, none given.

Indian Royalty

That was an astounding response! While on one hand some of India's men treat their women in a draconian manner, there are others who defend, protect and fight for their ladies, against the world! :)


Several things are pretty striking about that. For one, I personally feel that the guy who replied missed one point (deliberately perhaps because of the situation). The point being that Indians do have a "white-skin complex". All said abnd done though, nice retort.

Another thing...you mention some men being draconian and some protecting. Note: Gender crimes happen anywhere. And there will be people like that. But if you really look at Inida, I think most of the problem women face are caused by other WOMEN!!!! It's something a lot of my (female) friends and even my mother have mentioned....typical example being the "mother-in-law" thingy....
# posted by Blogger Darth Midnightmare : Thursday, June 16, 2005  

Just a clarification here. Indians refered to in this post does not refer to Asian Indians. From my reading of the post (and esp of the names of "famous" personalities mentioned) i assume that the Indians referred to are the Native Americans. Or as the response generalised the term, non-whites.
and while the response was very dignified in the face of an absolutely uncivilised provocation, do we (and here am including native americans, asian indians and generally non-whites) hv to respond to "defend our stance" and "explain why we do what we do".
# posted by Anonymous Anonymous : Friday, June 17, 2005  

nice and argumentive read
but i wud like to add one point

"i always read that its difficult to control white women and on the other hand asian women r easy to contol coz of their strict upbringing"

but it was vice versa stated in the post

nice read

# posted by Blogger saurabh ohri : Sunday, June 19, 2005  

Interesting. Very interesting. Gamund toh durr kar diya woh ladki ka. :)

It was a good response -- but you know, there aren't many guys out there these days...even the Indian ladies are changing in today's modern Indian society. The first point that there aren't many guys out there like this one -- it is true because of the change of society. Men and women in India are reaching a height of equality as women are as successful in the workforce as men in today's India, hence causing insecurity amongst men. This man that wrote this is a REAL man -- and I hope that he gets his perfect woman and treats her as he says.

Indian women are much more open than they were. Losing virginity is one -- aaj kal toh ladkiyan ko itni fiqar nahi hai jitni pehle thi. The conservativeness is being lost.

Khair the response is quite good. Thanks for sharing this! :)
# posted by Anonymous Poonam : Tuesday, June 21, 2005  


m really glad that u posted this!
# posted by Blogger Rajat : Saturday, July 02, 2005  

Reached here through an inane series of clicks that I cannot replicate even if I tried.

The retort, though vehement, suffers from the same malady that afflicts the initial outburst, that of being overtly touchy and defensive.

That non-white women are as good as, if not better, then white females is a fact that has been established by science, biology, genetics, common sense and general awareness.

The achievements of non-white females in all areas of human endeavour far outnumber those of white females. You dont need to look up the almanac to find proof for this.

If despite this, A Disgusted White Woman wants to rant, I believe it is either because she has suffered some personal injury which she believes involves some non-white woman or she is too strung / conceited to realise the truth, that is - non-white esp. Indian women ROCK.

There is absolutely no need to prove the virtues of our women. It is not for nothing that we consider God to be half female.

Though the point about we Indians having a white-skin complex is valid and a matter of concern and grief, but this does equate to a preference for white caucasian females among males.
# posted by Blogger indiagenie : Monday, July 25, 2005  

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